Fitz in the Morning: Make Up or Break Up

Friends with Gym Benefits

Joanna from Bremerton wrote to Fitz for help with her boyfriend Dave. She says he sometimes hangs out with her group of friends without her while she is at work. And the weirdest thing was he didn’t tell her – she saw a post on Instagram of them hanging out, and then learned they were doing it a lot. And it’s not just coffee and beers and stuff, but also – and this is odd – going to the gym together. She says she’s not necessarily worried that he’s cheating or at that any of her friends are trying to get with him, although it has crossed her mind; and in any case she just finds it unsettling and honestly wants our opinion on if she’s overreacting, because Dave thinks she is. He says he just likes her friends, and at first was just trying to be nice to them but just genuinely liked them so started accepting their invitations. And while he admits he is a “naturally flirty guy” and some of those girls are flirting back, he claims there is absolutely nothing else going on, they are just having fun. Plus, Dave says, since Joanna is a bartender it’s not like she doesn’t flirt with guys. His stance seems pretty reasonable until the gym butt-grabbing starts…